Added: Shamus Castro - Date: 08.10.2021 05:21 - Views: 20062 - Clicks: 7156
This blog post is written to the spouse who had the affair.
It is not as simple as just walking away. It requires commitment and perseverance. The secretive nature of the relationship lends itself to being surprisingly open and forthcoming with the affair partner because there is little risk.
You know that if things go bad, you can leave. But if things go well, you get what you want. That freedom of being your true self is what needs to happen in your marriage… the union that God put together. Just like any addiction, breaking the habit is difficult and you will experience withdrawal. There is a void in your life. In fact, it can reset the clock on healing for the marriage.
Even though it will be difficult, share your feelings with your spouse as you go through this time and work through them together. Why should you have to give up what makes you happy? Maybe you think you met your soulmate or that you married the wrong person and you deserve better. Or even worse, you think you can just continue with the affair and live multiple lives. There is no way to justify it. This is a tough one to admit, especially to your spouse. Even though having an affair is wrong, a very real relationship has taken place. A connection to another person has built over time and there will be guilt involved in ending the relationship.
And you, being in a relationship with them, know and care for them. But I assure you, ending the relationship quickly and permanently is best in the long run for everyone. Continuing communication only makes things worse. When my wife and I started down the path of rebuilding our marriage, I experienced withdrawal and it was validating to hear that it was common.
Remember to fight for your marriage and communicate your desires and struggles with your spouse. If you want to hear more about the details of my affair and how we recovered, watch here. Photo by JR Korpa on Unsplash. Save my name,and website in this browser for the next time I comment.
Why is it so hard to end an affair? You feel justified Why should you have to give up what makes you happy? You feel guilty This is a tough one to admit, especially to your spouse. Related Posts. Circle of Trust: 3 s of a True Friend. Love, the Antidote to Unforgiveness.What s wrong with an affair
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