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Jyeshtha Nagarik Live-In Relationship Mandal of Pune is looking at live-in relationships for older couples as a solution to loneliness. Asavari Kulkarni and Anil Yardi are like any other elderly middle-class couple. Kulkarni likes to cook, so there is some snack as well, usually a Kanda Pohathe Maharashtrian snack favourite.
On weekends and holidays, they like to watch plays, movies or go out to eat. Marriage can bring in expectation and ruin the relationship.
So why bother? The idea to start an organisation that encourages live-in relationships for older adults came to Damle through trial and error. He has an ancestral home in Wai, near Pune and runs an old age home for widowed seniors there. Most of the seniors there were alone and troubled, having lost their spouse. In most cases, children had an indifferent attitude to their loneliness. Damle felt marriage was a good idea. It worked initially but also came with the possibility of disapproving children and property issues, among other things. Why not live-in relationships, which can be more hassle-free, Damle thought.
Undeterred, Damle decided to start. Our first meeting saw 25 people, and gradually the s started increasing every month. One of our first couples met -Mr Bam and Mrs Ketkar — it was a boost for everybody. In the last six-seven years, JNLRM has successfully matched 39 couples despite their extremely stringent vetting process.
Once Damle has a good mix of candidates, they usually go on a picnic or road trip together, as it helps to break the ice. Most of the couples who met through them started by living in together for months before opting to get married, more often than Made you laugh during married mature Whitefield movie due to social expectations. Meena wanted to continue in the live-in relationship, but her partner felt otherwise, so they decided to get married after six months.
There is a good side to having someone to share her life with, but she misses her independent life. And I needed someone to wait for me back home. Kulkarni wanted someone with her at home too. Kulkarni and Yardi played it cautious. Finally, after months, Yardi moved in with Kulkarni. His office was closer to her home in Bibwewadi, and it made the most practical sense, though they also visit his residence in Hadapsar, a minute drive away.
Kulkarni has lived in the same apartment for the last 30 years. She shared the news with the same confidence and strength with which she took the decision. He works up to 7 pm on weekdays and Kulkarni, a retired LIC employee, spends her time visiting friends and doing her chores.
Both think the space they get the entire day helps. Not everyone has had as smooth a path. Lambe still wonders if she and Deo should have tied the knot due to social pressure. Damle believes a live-in arrangement is ideal for older couples as it gives them a sense of independence within the relationship and avoids complexities of marriage like property issues cropping up. He has met all sorts of people in the process, some outright hilarious — from an elderly man mainly looking for a housekeeper to a lady looking for an old man who is likely to pass away soon leaving the property to her.
Once he has matched a couple who wish to stay together, he insists on a notarized agreement, spelling out everything from who would be taking the responsibility to cook to whether finances would be shared tly. What helped him was the local media. The local Maharashtrian media has been very supportive. JNLRM is open to all, though Damle prefers residents of Pune and surrounding areas so that he can be in touch with the person comfortably. He charges Rs for men who are interested in starting the process of finding a partner.
There are no charges for women as Damle feels it is a massive step for many older women to even think of approaching the organisation. JNLRM is open to women over 45 and men over Damle wishes society was more open-minded and accepting of live-in relationships among older people.
Although children including one grandchild have met him looking for a partner for their parent, he has also come across many who have opposed. Because even if children are angry initially, sometimes they come around. Liked this story?
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Are Live-In Relationships For Older Couples A Solution To Loneliness?